AMPA Educational Publications

AMPA Monthly Newsletters

AMPA Educational Webinars:

Top Needs of Same-Gender Military Spouses and Their Families (February 2014 submission to the DoD Family Readiness Council)

Archived Documents:

Understanding Military Benefits for Same-Gender Couples

5 Things You Need to Know About Same-Sex Spouse Benefits

Navigating Your Benefits for Military Families

A four-part series presented by the American Military Partner Association on various benefits soon to be available to ALL military families. The series covers eduction, health care, employment, and financial resources.


Archived Resources:

LGBT Advocacy Organizations and Resources

Respect for Marriage Coalition

The American Military Partner Association is a proud member of the Respect for Marriage Coalition, a partnership of more than 80 civil rights, faith, health, labor, business, legal, LGBT, student, and women’s organizations working together to end the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) and grow support for the freedom to marry. The Coalition is co-chaired by Freedom to Marry and the Human Rights Campaign.

Freedom to Marry

AMPA is proud to partner with Freedom to Marry, the campaign to win marriage nationwide. Freedom to Marry partners with individuals and organizations across the country to end the exclusion of same-sex couples from marriage and the protections, responsibilities, and commitment that marriage brings.

Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG)

Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG) is a national non-profit organization with over 200,000 members and supporters and over 500 affiliates in the United States. This vast grassroots network is cultivated, resourced and serviced by the PFLAG National Office, located in Washington, D.C., the national Board of Directors and 13 Regional Directors.


COLAGE is a national movement of children, youth, and adults with one or more lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and/or queer (LGBTQ) parent/s. We build community and work toward social justice through youth empowerment, leadership development, education, and advocacy.

Outserve-Servicemembers Legal Defense Network

The Outserve-SLDN mission is to strengthen military culture by securing equal opportunity, equal protection, and equal benefits, without threat of harassment or discrimination, for LGBT service members and veterans.  Outserve-SLDN provides free legal advice and assistance to those joining or serving in the U.S. Armed Forces who may experience harassment or discrimination because of their actual or perceived sexual orientation or gender identity.

Lambda Legal Defense and Education Fund

Lambda Legal is a national organization committed to achieving full recognition of the civil rights of lesbians, gay men, bisexuals, transgender people and those with HIV through impact litigation, education and public policy work.

National Center for Lesbian Rights

The National Center for Lesbian Rights is a national legal organization committed to advancing the civil and human rights of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender people and their families through litigation, public policy advocacy, and public education.

National Center for Transgender Equality

The National Center for Transgender Equality (NCTE) is a 501(c)3 social justice organization dedicated to advancing the equality of transgender people through advocacy, collaboration and empowerment. NCTE was founded in 2003 by transgender activists who saw the urgent need for a consistent voice in Washington DC for transgender people.

Human Rights Campaign

HRC seeks to improve the lives of LGBT Americans by advocating for equal rights and benefits in the workplace, ensuring families are treated equally under the law and increasing public support among all Americans.

Immigration Equality

Immigration Equality is a national organization fighting for equality under U.S. immigration law for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and HIV-positive individuals. Founded in 1994 as the Lesbian and Gay Immigration Rights Task Force, Immigration Equality provides legal aid and advocacy for LGBT and HIV-positive immigrants and their families.

Resources for our Families with Children


NACCRRA provides a childcare subsidy for families who have a spouse in school, working, or who are away from an installation.

Utilizing the Family Care Plan

As part of the Family Care Plan, a same-sex partner/spouse can be listed as a Care Giver for dependent military children.  This Care Giver status grants the same-sex partner/spouse access to base facilities, including base housing, commissary/exchange shopping, etc., in order to provide care to the dependent military child or children.  While this guidance is specifically for the U.S. Army, other branches will have variations to these procedures.


COLAGE is a national movement of children, youth, and adults with one or more lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and/or queer (LGBTQ) parent/s. We build community and work toward social justice through youth empowerment, leadership development, education, and advocacy.

Family Equality Council

Family Equality Council is changing attitudes and policies to ensure all families are respected, loved, and celebrated – especially families with parents who are lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender.

Military Kids Connect - Department of Defense

A website developed by psychologists from the DoD’s National Center for Telehealth and Technology, this website offers military children a way to learn about deployments, recognize and share feelings, and develop coping skills.  The resource was developed to encourage and promote military kids’ strength and resiliance as they deal with the stress and challenge of military life.

American Academy of Pediatrics Support for Military Children and Adolescents

Provides information and resources to assist students in coping with deployment, including the short films “Mr. Po and Friends” and “Youth Coping with Separation: When Family Members Deploy.”

Military Child Education Coalition

This program identifies the challenges that face the highly mobile military child, increases awareness of these challenges, and implements programs to meet them.

Military Child Initiative

The Military Child Initiative assists public schools in improving the quality of education for highly mobile and vulnerable young people with a special focus on military children by providing national, state and local education agencies, as well as schools, parents and health, child welfare, juvenile justice and educational professionals with information, tools, and services that enhance school success. It includes a Web-based course on “Building Resilient Kids.”

Military Family Books

An excellent resource for books about the military and deployment for all family members, particularly children. The vision of is to offer carefully chosen, high-quality resources catered to military families’ needs and lifstyle. A portion of the profits from supports programs for military families.

Operation: Military Kids

Operation: Military Kids is a collaborative effort with America’s communities to support children and youth of National Guard, Reserve and active-duty families. State 4-H military liaisons in 34 states in partnership with the National Guard, Reserve, the Military Child Education Coalition, Boys and Girls Clubs of America, the National Association of Child Care Resource and Referral Agencies, The American Legion, schools, and other community organizations support youth before, during, and after deployment.

Operation Purple

Operation Purple was created in 2004 to help military children struggling with having a parent deployed. Any military child can apply. If all spaces are not filled with campers who meet the deployment criteria, the remaining camp slots are filled with any military child from any service branch, the National Guard, Reserve, PHS, and NOAA. “Deployment” is defined loosely as it is recognized that TDY and travel can often take service members away from family for significant periods of time.

United Through Reading

The United Through Reading® Military Program helps ease the stress of separation for military families by having deployed parents read children’s books aloud via DVD for their child to watch at home.

Zero to Three

Resources for parents of infants and toddlers.

Deployment Resources

Military Deployment Guide - Department of Defense

While some of this guide, such as the section on health care benefits, applies only to heterosexual military families, it is an excellent resource for deployments.  Ranging in coverage from pre-deployment all the way through the reintegration phase, it provides valuable advise and recommendations on being prepared and dealing with the issues and hardships involved.  Additionally, it provides information on numerous other applicable websites, programs, and relief organizations.

Family Deployment: Guides & Resources - provides several self-help and informational resources to help maintain and increase your family’s emotional and financial well-being. is an online resource supporting Service Members, their Families, and Veterans, with common post-deployment concerns. The website provides self-care solutions targeting post-traumatic stress, depression, anger, sleep, relationship concerns, and other mental health challenges.

Employment Resources

Military Spouse Employment Authority

As a military spouse you are eligible under this authority for employment with the federal government if your active duty military spouse: 1) receives a Permanent Change of Station (PCS) move; 2) has a 100% disability rating; or 3) died while on active duty. Each of these categories has different eligibility criteria that must be met.

Military Spouse Resume Toolkit by Blue Star Families

Military Spouse Corporate Career Network

Military Spouse Business Association

Military Spouse Foundation

In Gear Career

Permanent Change of Station (PCS) Resources

Moving 101“ and “Plan My Move” - Military HOMEFRONT

These guides are offered by the Office of the Deputy Assistant Secretary of Defense for Military Community and Family Policy (MC&FP), which is directly responsible for programs and policies establishing and supporting community quality of life (QOL) programs for service members and their families worldwide.

The Total Guide: Home Buying for Same Sex Couples

Purchasing a home is a major undertaking for any couple, but same-sex couples must be especially diligent to make sure their investment and their interests are protected.  This is due in part due to inconsistent marriage laws in America and because of varying laws handling the disposition of a property with multiple owners.  Purchasing a home with your partner is an exciting time in both of your lives, but it is absolutely imperative that you plan ahead so that you can avoid potentially serious financial and emotional stress in the future.

Confidential LGBT-Inclusive Coaching and Counseling Resources

Give an Hour

Give an Hour is a nonprofit 501(c)(3), founded in September 2005 by Dr. Barbara Van Dahlen, a psychologist in the Washington, D.C., area. The organization’s mission is to develop national networks of volunteers capable of responding to both acute and chronic conditions that arise within our society. Currently, GAH is dedicated to meeting the mental health needs of the troops and families affected by the ongoing conflicts in Iraq and Afghanistan. We provide counseling to individuals, couples and families, and children and adolescents. We offer treatment for anxiety, depression, substance abuse, post-traumatic stress disorder, traumatic brain injuries, sexual health and intimacy concerns, and loss and grieving.

The Soldiers Project

The Soldiers Project is a group of licensed mental health professionals who offer free psychological treatment to military service members (active duty, National Guard, Reserves and veterans) who have served or who expect to serve in the conflicts in Iraq or Afghanistan. We also provide treatment to members of their families and other loved ones. Treatment is conducted in our private offices. Our therapists are all volunteers and our services are entirely confidential. We do not report to any governmental agency.

Homeward Deployed

Homeward Deployed empowers servicemembers and their families to maintain strong family bonds while moving through a parent’s deployment and to successfully reintegrate as a strong, resilient family team, honoring the losses and changes that come with deployment and the return from duty.


Not Alone provides programs, resources and services to warriors and families impacted by combat stress and PTSD through a confidential and anonymous community.

Branch Specific Family Support Programs

Army Family Readiness Group

Marine Corps Family Readiness Program

Navy Fleet and Family Support Program

Airman & Family Readiness Centers

LGBT-Inclusive Religious and Spiritual Resources

Institute for Welcoming Resources

Denominational representatives of the Welcoming Church Movement created IWR in November 2002. The purpose of this ecumenical group is to provide the resources to facilitate a paradigm shift in multiple denominations whereby churches become welcoming and affirming of all congregants regardless of sexual orientation and gender identity. IWR wants to help build church homes that are truly welcoming and nurturing, where everyone knows “they’re okay, just like they are.” In early 2006, IWR became a program of the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force, through a formal merger.

Gay Church

Gay Church is a web site dedicated to ministering to the gay and lesbian Christian community (GLBT) and friends of our community. We feature one of the largest gay and lesbian affirming Christian church directories and bulletin boards in the world.

United Church of Christ

The United Church of Christ (UCC) is a mainline Protestant Christian denomination primarily in the Reformed tradition but also historically influenced by Lutheranism. Principally in the United States, the UCC was formed in 1957 by the union of the Evangelical and Reformed Church and the Congregational Christian Churches. These two denominations, which were themselves the result of earlier unions, had their roots in Congregational, Christian, Evangelical, and Reformed denominations. The UCC’s 5,320 congregations claim about 1.1 million members (from Wikipedia).

Metropolitan Community Church

The Metropolitan Community Church (MCC) or The Universal Fellowship of Metropolitan Community Churches (UFMCC) is an international Protestant Christian denomination. The Fellowship is considered by many to be a liberal mainline church. There are 250 member congregations in 23 countries, and the Fellowship has a specific outreach to lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender families and communities (from Wikipedia).

Unitarian Universalist Association

Unitarian Universalist Association (UUA), in full the Unitarian Universalist Association of Congregations in North America, is a liberal religious association of Unitarian Universalist congregations formed by the consolidation in 1961 of the American Unitarian Association and the Universalist Church of America. Both of these predecessor organizations began as Christian Unitarian and Universalist denominations; but modern Unitarian Universalists define themselves as non-creedal, and therefore they are not limited to Christian beliefs or affinities, but may also draw wisdom from other religions and philosophies as well, such as Humanism, Buddhism, Judaism, and Earth-centered spirituality, among others, or different combinations of them (from Wikipedia).

Gay Christian Network

The Gay Christian Network is a nonprofit ministry serving Christians who happen to be lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender, and those who care about them.

The Association of Welcoming & Affirming Baptists

The mission of the Association of Welcoming & Affirming Baptists is to create and support a community of churches, organizations and individuals committed to the inclusion of gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender persons in the full life and mission of Baptist churches.

The United Catholic Church

Education Resources and Inclusive Scholarships

Military Spouse Education Initiative

The Military Spouse Education Initiative (MSEI) provides advocacy and academic support for military spouses and partners of all branches, ranks, and education levels in order to work with the obstacles of military life.

MyCAA Scholarship

A $4,000 tuition assistance program provided by the DoD for spouses of service members E1-E5, O1-O2, and W1-W2.

National Military Family Association: Military Spouse Scholarships

The mission of this scholarship program is to help prepare military spouses for meaningful employment and to better contribute to their family’s financial security.  It is open to all military spouses, including same-sex spouses.

Tillman Military Scholar

An outstanding scholar program open to military spouses, inclusive of same-sex spouses, by the Pat Tillman Foundation.

HRC LGBT Student Scholarship Database

A list of scholarships, fellowships, and grants for LGBT and allied students at both the undergraduate and graduate-level.


FinAid lists and describes a number of scholarships available to lesbain, gay, bisexual, and transgender students with a wide variety of criteria for eligibility.

Point Foundation

Point Foundation empowers promising LGBTQ students to achieve their full academic and leadership potential – despite the obstacles often put before them – to make a significant impact on society.

Other Resources

Blue Star Families

Blue Star Families is a non-profit organization that seeks to support, connect, and empower military families.


NextGen MilSpouse seeks to connect with milspouses via social media and new media channels to foster a supportive, empowering, enriching, and exciting community where being a milspouse is just one dimension of who we are.

National Military Family Association

The National Military Family Association is a non-profit organization focused on issues important to military families. They believe that all military families deserve comprehensive child care, accessible health care, spouse employment options, great schools, caring communities, a secure retirement, and support for widows and widowers.

Military OneSource

Military OneSource is a free service provided by the Department of Defense to service members and their families to help with a broad range of concerns including money management, spouse employment and education, parenting and child care, relocation, deployment, reunion, and the particular concerns of families with special-needs members. They can also include more complex issues like relationships, stress, and grief. Services are available 24 hours a day — by telephone and online

National Guard Bureau Joint Services Support

Joint Services Support strives to honor the sacrifices Guard families make by ensuring they have a way to connect to other families, find events, get service contacts, and find resources close to home.  The Joint Services Support system is a gateway and safety net to support these families throughout their loved one’s military career and beyond.

VA CareGivers

Same-sex partners and spouses of disabled veterans may be eligible to be listed as “caregivers” with access to numerous benefits and services.  Contact the VA for more information.

Williams Institute LGBT State Resource Map

State-specific research on issues such as LGBT demographics, marriage, parenting, and workplace issues — including state-level data and maps from Census 2010.

Winning the Freedom to Marry: Progress in the States

An interactive map by Freedom to Marry on where marriage equality currently stands in each state.

AMPA Friend of the Court Briefs

Brief of Amici Curiae – United States Court of Appeals for the Tenth Circuit

The American Military Partner Association (AMPA) and OutServe-SLDN jointly filed a friend of the court brief with the U.S. Court of Appeals for the Tenth Circuit in the cases of Kitchen v. Herbert, decided by a federal district court in Utah, and Bishop v. Smith, decided by a federal district court in Oklahoma, arguing that the uneven patchwork of states providing marriage equality harms military families, undermines national security, complicates the payment of earned veterans benefits, and harms veterans. The brief, on which the law firm Chadbourne & Parke serves as counsel, urges the Court to end the discrimination caused by the lack of marriage equality by recognizing a constitutional right for people of the same gender to marry on the same terms as opposite-gender couples.

Brief of Amici Curiae – United States Court of Appeals for the Fourth Circuit