Ed and Jamie have been in a relationship for four and a half years and both serve in the United States Navy. They met in Phoenix in 2008 and were married in Hawaii just a day before their fourth anniversary in April of 2012. They made it “legal” in Washington DC in July of 2012. Currently stationed at Fort Belvoir, Virginia, they are lucky enough to have their second assignment together.
Jamie was born in Massachusetts, but grew up in Hawaii, and Ed originally hails from West Virginia. They both lived in Arizona for years before joining the Navy. As registered nurses, Jamie works in med/surg and is getting involved in informatics, while Ed works in critical care and was just placed on the Air Evac team. “We’re luckier than most in that we’re both active duty and therefore have base access,” Jamie tells AMPA, “This would obviously change if either of us left the military and would become even more complicated once children are involved.”
From the information they have been able to gather, they believe they are the first same-sex partners in the Navy Nurse Corps to marry following the repeal of DADT. “Our command has been extremely supportive and has done a wonderful job of trying to treat us just like everyone else. However, without equal rights and protections under the law, that support and equal treatment depends upon the will of the commander,” Ed tells us. They are lucky to be on their second assignment together, but they may not be so lucky in the future. While opposite-sex married couples are given priority for joint assignments, same-sex married couples are not even considered.
The couple finds that they are a wonderful compliment to each other – the perfect recipe for any relationship. Ed admires Jamie’s outgoing and social nature, and Jamie loves the passion and drive that Ed shows for his life and career. “We’re both home bodies – and geeks,” Ed tells us, “so when we need some down time, we’ll just veg on the couch and catch up on our latest sci-fi obsession.” Jamie is grateful to have a little more time to do so this year since Ed’s first scheduled deployment of their careers was cancelled this New Years Eve.
They are also grateful for the connection to other LGBT military families that they are able to find through AMPA. Ed said, “AMPA gives us the opportunity to get to know others in similar situations so we can develop a personal network.”